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Happy Birthday Marilyn Monroe!

TresSugar — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 14:00:00 -0700

Marilyn Monroe, who infamously sang "Happy birthday, Mr. President" at the age of 35, would be celebrating her 83rd birthday today. In honor of her birthday, LIFE.com released 15 never-before-published photos of Marilyn when she was only 24 years old and far from famous. Her star quality shined through at a young age, but when the photographer sent the photos to LIFE in 1950, the magazine wired back: "Who the hell is Marilyn Monroe?" Now the magazine is sharing the pictures - almost 60 years later!

Happy birthday, Marilyn.

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What Could You Live Without?

DearSugar — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:00:00 -0800

Yesterday's Oprah was dedicated to simplifying your life. Since we are all learning a hard lesson about money, she is challenging those who are struggling financially to pull back the reigns by taking Suze Orman's three-step money pledge to not spend any money for a day, not use a credit card for a week, and not eat out for a month. The couples that rose to the challenge realized how little they really needed to live and what truly matters in life, which just solidifies Oprah's poignant statement of, "Having the best things is no substitute for having the best life."

Since we are all trying to save where we can, going back to the basics is the quickest, easiest way to keep unnecessary spending at bay. So if you're on the saving money bandwagon, too, tell me, what have you realized that you can actually live without?

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Group Therapy: How Do I Get Over My Fear of Being Single?

Fri, 24 Oct 2008 03:00:00 -0700

I am a young professional who just moved across the country to start a new job. I have never lived more than an hour away from home, and I moved to a city where I don't know a lot of people. My college boyfriend and I broke up right before I moved, and it was extremely difficult to lose my best friend and boyfriend all while moving somewhere new.

I know that we broke up for the right reasons, and he was not the person for me, but I just have this huge fear of being alone forever. I feel like this fear is causing me not to enjoy this move and new chapter of my life as much as I should. We have been broken up for over six months so it's not like it just happened. I also feel like I am settling for people and guys, and putting myself in situations that I never would before I started college.

I used to have so much drive and so many goals, but now I just feel lost. Being a broke, single girl in a big city away from my family and friends that I have known forever, I feel like I have lost my direction in life. I really like my new job, but there are so many other things that I would like to do, like travel and go to grad school, but I just can't afford it. I want to be that determined girl who would never settle that I was four years ago, and I don't know how to get that back. Any advice?

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Do Tell: What's the Best Piece of Advice a Parent's Given You?

DearSugar — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Getting unsolicited advice, especially from our parents, can be more frustrating and intrusive than helpful. With more years and life experience under their belts, some of what they say must be true, which is why it’s always good to at least hear them out even if you find their know-it-all sentiment irritating.

My mom always told me to beware of charming men, and to this day I'm not convinced by a charmer until I see his genuine side - I think it's saved me a few heartaches! I’ve shared mine, now what’s yours? Do tell: What’s the best piece of advice you got from your parents?

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The How-To Lounge: Making the Best of Things

DearSugar — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Financially, things are rough right now, and even if you’re not personally affected, it’s impossible to miss the changes happening everywhere as people lose their homes and their jobs. In such a time of uncertainty, it’s easy to let worries overtake you. But as they say about life giving you lemons, maybe it's time to make lemonade. To see my ideas for doing just that, read more.

First of all, do what it takes to get your finances in order. Organizing your money will allow you to feel more comfortable and alleviate many worries. You couldn’t possibly have a better excuse to now. If you don't know where to start, I'm sure Savvy has plenty of tips for you.
It’s too expensive to go out, so stay in. Offer to have people over for a cheap wine party or a pot luck dinner.
The same goes for family. It’s expensive to meet at a restaurant or take an outing to the movies. It costs a fraction of that to whip up some chili and pull out the Monopoly board. And you know what? These are the family memories that last longest.
In need of extra cash? Try cleaning your house. The junk that’s been clogging your counters and cabinets this year could bring in some money. Not to mention that your house will actually be clutter-free, too.
Give volunteering a shot. You may be surprised how working with an organization you care about will start to make you feel hopeful. It’s easy to sit at home depressed, but you’ll feel much better taking action.

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Dear Poll: How Many Relationships Have You Been In?

DearSugar — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 15:00:00 -0700

You learn something new with every life experience, including relationships. That said, I certainly don’t think you need dozens of relationships to know a thing or two about how they work. Some people are daters, and some prefer monogamy, and of course there’s everyone in between too. So just for curiosity’s sake, tell me, how many actual relationships have you been in?

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Looking on the Brighter Side

DearSugar — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:00:00 -0700

To combat the impending Winter and the lagging economy, last week Smitten challenged its readers to list five of their favorite simple pleasures in life. By making ourselves more aware of the good things around us, we can take our minds off of the things in our lives that aren't going as well as we'd like. It's all about the power of positive thinking, so if you're a person who tends to see the glass as half empty, this is perfect for you! My simple pleasures for today: a good night's sleep, a hot shower, and a sunny day. What are yours?

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The How-To Lounge: Picking Yourself Up From Rock Bottom

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

This past weekend I asked you all to share a moment in your life when you felt as if you'd hit rock bottom. There were some amazing stories, and it was so inspiring to hear how some of you had made it through all the stronger. But I also feel for those of you in the midst of a low point right now, so I want to take this opportunity to share some of my advice for how to cope with such a difficult time. If this is something you're struggling with right now, check out my tips when you read more.

Perhaps the most difficult part about hitting rock bottom is admitting it. For many people, acknowledging this low point is basically the same as saying they've let their life spin out of control, which can feel very dispiriting. But if you don't admit it, you'll never be able to fight through it.
It's OK to be scared. Once you realize you need to put your life back together, the climb to the top can seem terrifying. Learning to keep trying even when you're scared is half the battle.
Fear can be very defeating, but don't give up. Change doesn't happen overnight, but if you stick with it, eventually you'll get the results you long for.
They call it rock bottom because you can only go up from there, so start with baby steps. Create small goals for yourself and as you succeed, make them larger. And of course, whenever you achieve a goal, no matter how small it may seem, take a moment to pat yourself on the back.
Finally, reach out for support from others. Obviously friends and family are a great resource, but if you can't go to them, consider a therapy group or even an online forum. Sometimes just knowing that others understand you makes all the difference in the world.

As impossible as it seems right now, you will make it past this rough patch! For those of you who have, please feel free to provide your best advice in the comments below.

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Do Tell: Have You Ever Hit Rock Bottom?

DearSugar — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

I often hear people refer to “hitting rock bottom” as the impetus they needed to pull themselves back up to the top again. But since we all come from different backgrounds and deal with our own set of struggles, the notion of rock bottom differs for everyone. And even though being in that dark place is never fun, often the changes that come out of it help shape the direction of life for the better. I know I’ve battled personal demons before, what about you? Do tell: When was your all-time low?

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Dear Poll: Are You Forgetful?

DearSugar — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 15:00:00 -0700

I used to pride myself on my impeccable memory, but lately I’ve had trouble remembering the silliest things, like the time of my dentist appointment and if I’m supposed to meet my girlfriend on Friday or Saturday night. When I mixed up the latter, my friend said, “you’ve become so forgetful.” And I suppose it’s true, though I blame it all on being too busy, of course. Are you forgetful, too?

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